Why bother with Good Mental Health as a Leader?:

 

Ever since the Industrial Revolution, Companies, Governments and Organisations world-wide have driven their employees as far, and as hard, as they could, to gain maximum performance for as little cost as legally allowed and often unreasonably possible.

By putting company profits as the focus, the sacrifice can often be at the expense of its people.   Their health and mental wellness often is an annoying by-product of trending shifts in society values, and in many cases the cost of sick leave, lack of productivity and low morale caused from poor organisational culture is merely “poppy-cock”.  An intangible complication for the weak or sensitive individuals.

But the world is shifting.  Slowly a change is happening.  The movement grows as the buzz word of “Mental Health Crisis” increases.  This is only further highlighted due to the CoVid ravaged business world, that has been shaken to the very core.    Or has CoVid restrictions on our workplace, merely highlighted an already systemic problem with the way Companies and Organisations all over the world have ignored the health and wellbeing of it’s team?

If we are in a leadership position, our greatest show of strength lies within our ability to lead by demonstration.   Gone are the days of “Do as I say, Not as I do” type of management.   Employees and staff are savvy enough to know they can find work elsewhere and don’t always have to put up with that type of attitude, from those who are above them in the chain of command.

What affect does this have?   Well, people will leave.   Plain and simple, you will lose staff, and most likely the best and brightest will be the first to go.

Because we are all human, and we all have our own box of springs, it is critically important that the leadership team of any organisation have good mental health.  These 5 areas are shown to be the cornerstones to successful leadership strategies:

  • EQ/EI:  Primarily, leaders must have Emotional Intelligence.  They need to be self and socially “aware”.  Having an ability to reflect on their own actions and responses to identify how this has impacted those around them, especially if they are leading a team whereby everyone is watching how the leader performs and emulating this behaviour.   Industries where this has magnified systemic problems are in Legal Firms, Nursing, Para-Military organisations and those with high pressure responsibilities.   There has been previously systemic bullying, and the newcomers who have served their time or paid their dues, then become perpetrators on others.  They justify their poor leadership behaviour by saying,

“Well it happened to me when I started, now it is your turn”.

  • BALANCE: Another indicator of good mental health is the ability to stay in Balance, and not be triggered by the emotional ebbs and flows of other people.    Leaders are required to remain neutral, however we are all human.  We will have people in our team that we like and get along well with, while others may irritate or annoy us, just by being who they are.  Emotions can cloud our rational thoughts and often take us on a journey into actions and behaviours that are not our normal self.   This is evident within supervisors who create a passive-aggressive targeting routine to certain individuals.  They will be harder on those they don’t like and provide privilege to those whom they connect well with and enjoy friendly banter.    Learning to identify and disarm our own triggers as a leader gives us an opportunity to learn and grow.  With this process we can increase the level of respect that our team has for our direction.   Respected leaders will have a loyal and dedicated group of individuals that will walk across broken glass in bare feet just to produce the best outcome.   Conversely, supervisors who are erratic, emotional, inconsistent and unreasonable will destroy any possible productive outcome from the team, as well as become the “joker” of a boss behind closed doors.

 

  • CRITICAL THINKING: This is an important and often understated tool that many leaders do not apply on a regular basis.    Every thought we have in our brain has been generated OUTSIDE of ourselves.   We have been taught wrong.   We are essentially taught back to front.   To have critical thinking means to challenge where that thought or belief actually originated and then test that thought against all possible opposite beliefs and see if what we know is actually TRUE.

For example:   Where is the best place in the world to get Pizza?   No matter who tells you their version, until YOU personally have tried every single pizza place in the entire world, you cannot truly know 100% for sure, yourself.

Challenge everything you have been taught.  Don’t blindly believe what you hear or see.   With these skills of critical thinking, you are better able to manage people, especially when there is a disagreement, because “everyone has a different view of the intersection” [Foundations to Living Series – Dynamic Duos in Business©]  So there will always be arguments and differences of opinions.  Great leaders find the facts, remove the emotion and make fair and just decisions based upon critical thinking and problem solving.  Without this ability, many managers will be unable to get the job done, when everything is going wrong around them.

 

  • SELF CARE: We talk about work / life balance all the time, but what does that look like?  How do we know our limits and the limits of those around us?   What happens to us when we DON’T listen to the warning signs and take that time out when we need it?  Of course, life comes crashing down around us when we are at the peak of trying to “hold it all together”.

Self-Care goes hand in hand with Mental Wellness.   Seeing the positives in our team and encouraging them to see the positives within themselves is critical to achieving greatness within your role.   There is a fundamental rule of life that shows us

“What we focus on, GROWS”

If you have ever gone to buy a new car, once a decision is made to go for a certain brand or model, we tend to see that car everywhere.  It’s not that they were not around, but that we didn’t notice them until we started looking at them.

It’s scientifically proven that our brain brings to the forefront things that we are looking for.   So to, if we are looking for mistakes that our employees are making, then guess what we will see MORE of?   That’s right, mistakes.   However if we are looking for the GOOD things our team does, then of course we will see more great outcomes.   It’s the law of attraction.   What we focus on will come to the forefront of our minds.  This is why Reward and Recognition programs work well inside organisations. The benefits are felt not only by employees but also by management.

 

  • SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY: Ultimately every person wants the same 2 things.  At the very core of who we are; we ALL want to be happy.   However, happiness represents different things, to different people, at different times.   For some, it means a sense of purpose, belonging, acceptance and respect.    The other thing that every human needs, is to learn and grow.  We need to fundamentally feel we are better than we were the day before.  That’s why the human race evolves.

If we take a look into your employees, your team, they are no different.     If they are happy but NOT learning, they will stay for a while, then eventually, they will want a CHALLENGE.  They will leave to find somewhere to expand their skills and knowledge.

Conversely if your team are learning but not HAPPY, they will stay until you have trained them up, they will take those skills and leave your organisation to find somewhere to apply those skills in an environment that they can enjoy and be happy in.

This is not rocket science, these are the 2 fundamental needs of all human beings.  To be HAPPY and to Learn & Grow [Foundations to Living – Dynamic Duos in Business©]

The aim for your leaders is to provide a good Company Culture and morale, as well as sustainable learning and responsibility.  To do this we have to recognise and practice Good Mental Health & Wellness as a part of everyday leadership.

 

For more information on these practices and more speak with Author & Co Founder Julie Richman at Crestpoint Psychology & Wellbeing Centre.   www.crestpointwellbeing.com/freesession

1420 Logan Road Mt Gravatt

(07) 3420 6322

 

 

Avoid Burnout – 3 easy steps to finding balance

Often we give so much of ourselves in an effort to fulfill that inner need for self-worth.    This can quickly lead to BURNOUT and send us down that road to destruction.   This is particularly applicable to our career, especially when in a role such as Frontline worker, Emergency Services, Carer, Disability Support, Medical and Hospitals, Mental Health, Small Business Owners, highly driven corporate settings and Customer Service.

So how do we avoid BURNOUT?

It is easier said than done, because we have to really know ourselves, to understand our limits.  Recognising when we are needing to take a break can often conflict with our upbringing and subliminal programming to strive to be the best at all times.   That means we push through when times are tough.  The “No Pain No Gain” mantra plays in our heads and we continue to work ourselves into the ground long after our desire to give up has been unceremoniously squashed.

Is it any wonder that we get sick?   Is it any wonder why we fall into a black hole?   We are ourselves just “an accident waiting to happen” whenever we avoid the warning signs of life.

Are you currently feeling emotionally exhausted, mentally drained and physically wrecked?

In case you are still doubting that this is relevant for you, here are some of the subtle warning signs that you may be getting close to burnout stage.

Recognising signs of Burnout

This is not an exhaustive list but it covers some of the common signs of burnout:

  • Physical and emotional stress
  • Low job satisfaction
  • Feeling frustrated by or judgmental of clients
  • Feeling under pressure, powerless and overwhelmed
  • Not taking breaks, eating on the run
  • Unable to properly refuel and regenerate
  • Frequent sick days or “mental health days”
  • Irritability and anger

So how do we solve this?

Recognising your limits physically, mentally and emotionally is the first step on the road to recovery and balance.

  • Learn SELF CARE techniques (i.e. “How to Fill Your Own Jug First”)
  • Understand the “Foundations to Living”™ and apply these strategies to your everyday life
  • Identify your “trigger” that pushes you beyond reasonable limits and relinquishes your ability to say “no”, “stop” or “enough”.

Reducing the risks associated with Burnout can be as simple as understanding what is reasonable acceptance of responsibility upon yourself.  Seek help or support when it comes to mental wellness to ensure you maintain a balance of perspective throughout any adjustment period.   Taking the steps forward in regaining quality of life rather than heading down that road to BURNOUT and destruction is the most valuable legacy that you give to yourself, and your family.

If this article resonates with you and you wish to chat with someone

Contact us at Crestpoint for a free mental wellness session

www.crestpointwellbeing.com/freesession

Date 12th March 2021
Author:- Julie Richman – Personal Wellbeing Advisor
Crestpoint Psychology & Wellbeing Centre

 

Most people don’t run to a psychologist or counsellor at the first sign of trouble in their lives.  Whether it’s that we don’t want to appear weak or needy, or maybe we have been told that traditional line of, “Life wasn’t meant to be easy”, and so we keep struggling along and not really getting anywhere.

Without the proper support, we can often battle along by ourselves for way longer than we should.  This takes a toll on our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health and wellbeing.

But let’s be honest, life is rarely without its set of challenges or difficulties.

So how do you know when it is time to speak to a therapist?  How will you tell your friends and family without them judging you in some way?

You may feel the “I think I am ok, but I cannot seem to be happy” numbness, where a lack of spark in our lives turns into days and weeks of nothing but feeling flat.

The lack of excitement or joy, even occassionally makes us all realise that we are alive.   Without that, then we need to recognise there is something wrong.  Something missing.  Something empty.

It is time you called the warm and friendly team of Psychologists, Counsellors and Wellbeing Advisors at Crestpoint Psychology.

 

Some areas that you may be experiencing difficulties right now may be:

Stress and anxiety

Specific aspects of life are difficult, and many situations– from an interviews to relationship problems– can trigger you to feel distressed. Fear, tension and stress, if left unchecked, can cause social seclusion, anxiety, and a variety of other problems. Psychologists, Counsellors and Wellbeing Advisors at Mt Gravatt Wellbeing Centre can help you manage stress and anxiety by discovering the cause of the issue, in addition to help you find suitable ways to conquer them.

Anxiety

Overwhelming feelings of helplessness or hopelessness are typical signs of depression. While some people believe that you can simply “snap out” of anxiety, it rarely occurs. Depression is a common mental health disorder where individuals dislike things, experience tiredness, and typically have trouble handling their feelings.

We have specialists that can help you discover the source of depression– often the initial step to reversing any negative thought processes.

Phobias

Many fears are healthy and stop us from hurting ourselves, however irrational fear is called a Phobia.  This may impact, inhibit or restrict your enjoyment of everyday living.  Often an unusual or unproven worry can create substantial blockages or issues in your life, for example, sitophobia, which is a worry or fear of eating because it may result in severe illness.   If you have concerns or questions around phobias, then a skilled and knowledgeable psychologist can help you begin to conquer your fears so that you can live without polyphobia, (worrying about numerous things) or phobophobia (a fear of worrying too much).

Loss

Death is an inescapable part of life, but that doesn’t make it any easier to handle. Everyone manages the loss of someone in a different way, whether it’s a family pet, relative, friend or someone you only meet once.  Grief can overtake our daily activities by paralyzing us into an emotional cocoon.

Crestpoint Psychologists and Counsellors can help you discover suitable ways to deal with the passing of another person in ways that can be both constructive and liberating.

Household and relationship concerns

Relationships, whether family, individual, or work-related, have their ups and downs. While relationships can be a few of the finest things in life, they can also provide stress and problems. Dealing with a psychologist, counsellor or personal wellbeing advisor, either separately or in a group setting, can benefit any person faced with a troubling relationship.

Unhealthy routines, dependencies and addictions.

Some unhealthy routines, such as cigarette smoking, drinking, and drug use are frequently used to get away from bigger underlying problems or to self-medicate.

At Crestpoint Psychology & Wellbeing, our Psychologists and Counsellors can assist you get to those issues, and find the underlying reasons for any unhealthy behaviour, such as:.

  • dependencies.
  • consuming conditions.
  • tension management.
  • sleeping issues.

Mental Health disorders.

Sometimes multiple symptoms are brought on by larger issues. Psychological conditions can manifest themselves in numerous ways. They’re frequently disguised as something else and can only be discovered with the aid of a mental health specialist or psychological assessment.  Our team are well versed in supporting individuals with advanced challenges in a safe and caring environment.   If we need to refer you to another mental health professional, we can provide you the support you need.

Some mental health disorders with varying symptoms may consist of:

  • Bipolar Affective Disorder.
  • Significant Depressive Disorder.
  • Schizophrenia.
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • Personality Disorder

Enhanced efficiency

A few of the most effective people achieve their goals by first visualizing them. Professional athletes often mentally get ready for a competition with as much dedication as they put into physically training of their body. Almost every person can benefit from these strategies at some point in their life.  Many individuals can often struggle with their career development or workplace stresses such as bullying or harassment.  Crestpoint Psychology and Wellbeing has a very skilled team of business psychologists and wellbeing advisors that can support you through the difficult times in your working life, to allow you to succeed in whatever industry you are in.

Our Personal Wellbeing Advisors are available for group training, one on one sessions, mediation and crisis management and change or career redundancies.

Clarity

Psychologists, Counsellors and Personal Wellbeing Advisors can help you improve your mental clearness by functioning as an unbiased set of ears. Typically, individuals discover their own solutions just by hearing themselves talk aloud in therapy.

Merely getting their problems visible assists lots of people enhance their mental clearness, be more able to focus, and end up being more task-oriented. Crestpoint Psychologists, Counsellors and Wellbeing Advisors at Mt Gravatt are trained to be terrific listeners.

Discovering the ideal help.

Our team of Psychologists, Counsellors and Wellbeing Advisors can help you keep a clear mind and handle any tension, stress and anxiety, phobias, or any other issues you face. Crestpoint Psychologists and Counsellors can help you get the most out of life and keep you devoid of signs of depression and other psychological health issues.

Try one of our Free First Consultations to see if we can help you.  If you are comfortable, then you can begin a relationship that’s open and communicative.

Contact us for an obligation-free chat – https://www.crestpointwellbeing.com/make-a-booking

 

In today’s busy world, it’s no secret that many of us are constantly under pressure and feeling stressed. Whether it be numerous work deadlines due in a tight space of time, financial worries or a copious number of responsibilities, stress can significantly impact our mental health. Mindfulness enables us to bring attention to the present moment, while creating a state of attentiveness and focused relaxation.